You have a lot of power. When you are in a conversation with your friend, you can direct the chat in the way you want to. Isn’t it? You may chat up on a hundred disparate issues. But they are all issues and topics that you and/or your friend like to talk about or find it necessary to talk about. When conversations go into subjects or areas you don’t want them to go into, don’t you take a turn and talk about something better or more useful or more pleasant? So, you do exercise such choice and power, isn’t it? Ways to Zap Stress before it Strikes Use your power of choice When you do have the power of choice in your hands why not use it with wisdom making smart moves and wise choices? And why not choose to not let stress get the better of you? Let stress get defeated in its attempt to take you in its fold, to trap you in its web. Stress comes and envelopes you rather cleverly but you can be smarter and defeat it in its vicious plans. You are in charge of your life. Take control into your hands. You are not a weakling to be affected by every little occurrence, every unforeseen event, every unknown situation and every other person. So be smart to beat stress before it strikes. Let’s see how. Try to pre-empt stress If you know what or who causes you stress, you can pre-empt a stress attack. Tell yourself you will not get bogged down by the stress the situation or person will cause or create. It’s easy. The fact that you are aware of a situation or a person being the cause of your stress implies you have experienced it before. Right? But post facto you would have known you need not have stressed yourself overly or unnecessarily. Most often it is so. Isn’t it? Unless it was a terrible event that was irreversible in its effect or impact. So, stay calm. Normal life situations aren’t situations to stress out oneself with. Problems are there to be solved. They are not for getting frightened about. Your trouble has a solution and you can definitely find it. Or else smile and go ahead and face it. You will come out the stronger. You can handle exam-related stress Every time you had a test or exam at school and college and you got stressed studying and preparing for it and ultimately cleared it didn’t you feel you could have spent more relaxed hours studying than those same hours studying under stress? You are much better off...

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Love makes the world go round, they say. And love makes every individual’s life go on too, every human being’s world go round too. Love is fundamental to our existence; it sees us through from the beginning to the end of our life. It sustains, protects, fosters, energizes and invigorates our life. It is a great stress buster too. What is the power of love? Love is about sharing and caring. Love is about friendship and togetherness. Love is about being together through thick and thin, through the ups and downs of life. Love is about sharing joys and laughter, sorrows and tears. So, isn’t it a huge power? We experience love in so many different ways, with so many different persons and even so many different life forms, through all our life. Love Relieves Stress Imagine you are faced with a stressful situation. Who do you look to for support, succour, consolation or counsel? Instinctively and impulsively you look for your trusted friend, your parent or your spouse. Don’t you? What is it that makes you turn to them? Their love for you. Whatever your age and wherever you may be and whatever your position in life, you seek solace from your loved ones. Such is the power of love. Love is not love/which alters when it alteration finds, wrote Shakespeare. That points to love being a huge power. No change can change true love. And this true love is what we all seek, it’s what we can share, and it keeps us going. In a tensed situation, when life turns tough, in times that cause you stress, what brings a smile to our face? Love. And only love. How Love Relieves Stress? Parents-Children As a student you have had exams to appear for. Imagine it is a public examination or a competitive examination. You are under stress. But it is your parents who do so much for you to help you go and appear in the exam. Their love and blessings accompany you. And that’s what helps you clear your examinations. It is easy to succumb to stress and fright, but it’s the power of love of your parents because of which you don’t. Isn’t it? Through your childhood, teenage and adulthood and even after you become independent, the love of your parents stays unwavering. It remains a constant. And it is such a source of comfort. And it works the other way round too – parents too glow when their children show them love, in small ways as little children, and in more appropriate ways as they grow older. Elderly parents feel so much better, despite...

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Stress and tension have become rampant. I was taken aback when a little child in kindergarten said to me that she was under tension because she had her exams the following day! Tension and stress have become very common, and we are victims of such conditions for any and every thing, thanks to these fast-paced times. Every activity has a quick way to complete, and the results are ours to savour, likewise, speedily. While this may pander to our fancies, we are also getting affected adversely by the hectic pace of life and consider ourselves defeated if we fail to match up to it. How to Manage Stress and Anxiety We have discussed here some important points describing effective ways to better manage the stress and anxiety: Stress and anxiety take a toll on your all round health Stress and anxiety have a very deleterious effect on our body, mind and emotions. There is an optimal level of stress, a level of stress which is needed for us to perform our activities, and perform them well. At levels above it, stress or anxiety affects us adversely. Being subjected to such stress, over prolonged periods of time, starts impacting our health. That is why many diseases are psycho-somatic in nature. In other words, the physiological condition of individuals is seen to be related to their psychological as also mental and emotional states. So, know the fact and be wise enough to remain away from stress and anxiety. Stress is a mental phenomenon Stress is nothing but it’s a mental phenomenon which our mind creates. How is undue stress, called variously as tension, anxiety and panic, caused? It could be caused by the unpreparedness, on our part, to face a situation, known or unknown. It may also be caused by our past experiences. Once we have experienced a situation that caused us to feel anxious or stressful, the repetition of a similar situation creates the same response in us. Over time it may become a habit to experience tension and anxiety. Occurrences, situations and events may create stress in us knowingly or even unknowingly in the long-run. Stress is a mental phenomenon. There are as many reasons to experience stress as there are activities to be done and events and situations to go through in our lives. It is individual-specific. And it varies over time. Let us see how we can keep ourselves away from stress and relieve ourselves of the stress that we are already a victim of. As stress is a mental phenomenon, we need to see how the mind can be relieved of its stresses. Find out the...

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How to Enhance Willpower and Determination There are self help books that give you ten steps to become rich, or how to become successful in ten easy steps. These are touted as the easiest routes to reach the particular destination. Sure shot means, they are made to appear. Then there are two minute noodles. The quick and easy way to gastronomic satiation. The shortest and easiest routes and steps are forever being found. But to choose to do anything, it’s all about a moment. Nothing more than that. Decide to act How, you ask. Because it takes just a moment to decide to do a thing. The actual doing of the activity may take any length of time. The gestation period may be of any duration. The actual fructification of any beginning may be a long period of time, or for that matter a brief period. But all it takes is one moment to say that magical word to choose to do an activity and start moving forward in your chosen direction: Yes! That’s the magical word to go ahead. And so if you say yes, you start to doing it. If you say no, well, you don’t go ahead to do it. It’s just that simple. When you say yes, you actually start bringing all that you need to get going. That first yes means much. Because it actually helps you in deciding the direction. Anyone who cooks for a family knows that it is not really the cooking that is arduous or time consuming but taking the decision on what everyone in the family wants and needs to have for the meal. Being bombarded by many different options and suggestions leaves the cook flummoxed. But once the menu is decided, it is only the bringing together of the ingredients.  And then for the cook to get cracking! So it’s important to zero in on what to do. Power of will The very first step is therefore to want and decide to do something. After that comes the keeping alive of the interest and to continue the effort with determination. Well begun is half done. And only half the work therefore remains to be done once you have begun well! And what is it that keeps you going once you have decided to do something? It is your will. Your will is like a horse. Let it run more and the horse will gain strength to run ever faster, to cover ever greater distances, and to reach the destination quickly. Use the will and it will serve you better. Leave it to disuse and it will rust. Arm...

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Coping with Grief and Loss: How to handle your emotions, anger, depression and fear Loss of someone near and dear to you or lack of intended results in your pursuits can fill you with sadness. You might undergo so many tumultuous emotions and tend to think that there is no end to your pain and misery. These are normal reactions to such difficult, agonizing situations. Though there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with unbearable pain. In due course, you can renew your trust in life and move on. You cannot regain your composure and perform well in life without being able to cope with grief and loss. Here we are going to tell you how you can handle your emotions, anger, depression and fear and make your life worth living. How to handle emotions? Emotions are what make human life joyful and fascinating. They can also make your life challenging at times. You will encounter a variety of emotions, sometimes positive and negative at other times, which range in intensity from mild to severe. If you cannot handle them, emotions would get better of you and you would no longer be in the control of your life. Emotional Awareness When you are plunged into negative emotions, you can feel it inside your body – heaviness on your chest, a hollow feeling in your stomach, a tensed face, and tears welling up. Such situations send powerful signals about how you manage the pressures. If you are able to navigate this whirlpool without blowing up, you just might arrive on the other side looking better than ever. Emotional awareness helps you know what you need and want or don’t want. It helps you build better relationships. You can express your feelings more clearly when you are well aware of your emotions. You should avoid conflicts or resolve them soon in order to overcome difficult conditions. These are the steps that will certainly help you understand your feelings. Interestingly, it’s not true just for negative emotions. If you know how to identify and draw strength from positive emotions, it would prove to be a great stress buster. Dealing with Grief: Grief is a natural outcome of loss. You feel shattered when something or someone you love is taken away. The bigger the loss, the more severe and long lasting the grief is. Sometimes the death of a loved one makes you feel so empty. More often than not such tragedy is the cause of your grief; however, any loss can be the cause. Sooner or later, everybody has to face the impermanence of...

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You often face problems in memorizing and concentrating on your tasks. Generally, it is a sign of low or poor memory power. People around you have high expectation from you and want you to achieve something special in your field of interest. But they feel disappointed when you are unable to remember or concentrate on a given task. As you are aware, to perform well in life, you need a good memory power, especially in today’s competitive world. But quite often your memory fails you, due to factors such as stress, lack of exercise, inadequate nutritious food, deficiency of oxygen supply to the brain, etc. However, you need not bother too much for that. We are going to tell you how you can improve your memory power and concentration in confronting the daily challenges of life. The best way to improve your memory and concentration is to encourage good blood flow to your brain as it’s the brain that controls our speaking, thinking, planning, imagining, reasoning and physical movements. And, there are very simple ways to sustain the healthy function of the brain. Read on to know how to improve your memory power and concentration:   Proper Diet — A healthy and proper diet is one of the significant ways to improve and boost your memory power and concentration. Following are some of the ingredients which make your diet truly wholesome: Eggs: Include eggs as a regular part of your diet as eggs are rich in choline, an essential nutrient that aids the function of neurotransmitters. Apart from that eggs contain cholesterol, an important component of brain cell membranes. It also works as a brain-protective antioxidant. So, let eggs be an integral part of your daily diet. Spinach: It is a rich source of antioxidants. According to nutritionists, a diet rich in spinach can help keep your brain alert. It also contains folic acid, which goes a long way in improving your memory power and concentration. Apart from protecting nerves in the brain, it is full of antioxidants which block toxins produced by the body. It will also protect you from untimely heart diseases, cancer and strokes. It is also one of the best sources of vitamin B. Olive oil: Olive oil is a very powerful brain protective antioxidant. So, you prepare your family’s meal in olive oil. Beans: These are a rich source of healthy and nutritious elements that include proteins, carbohydrates and fibers. All these elements, when combined together, help your brain function efficiently. Beans are also very rich in vitamins that are essential for your brain such as folic acid and vitamin B12. Not only this,...

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As a parent, you always worry about how well your kids are learning. You have huge expectation from them and want them to scale great heights of success in life. But you get anxious if your kids have poor or unsatisfactory memory power. Relax. We are going to tell you how you can ensure that your children can enjoy a sound memory as they study a lot to acquire new learning. As you know, the best way to boost your children’s memory and brain function is to encourage good blood flow to their brain. And, there are very simple ways to sustain the healthy function of their brains. Read on to discover how to enhance the memory power in your children: Tips to Boost Memory Power in Kids Proper diet: Proper diet can help your children maintain good mental fitness levels while improper diet can just do the opposite. You must know that human brain needs quite a lot of energy. Though it constitutes only 2% of the body’s weight, it consumes more than 20% of the energy intake of a person every day. So, a healthy diet is one of the significant ways to preserve or boost the memory in children. Fruits and vegetables: You should provide your children with fruits and vegetables in plenty. Give them a good amount of fruits and vegetables in their breakfast and they will reap the rewards throughout the day. To work properly, their brain cells need a good supply of oxygen, which can derive greatly from fresh fruits and vegetables. Iron-rich foods: Lack of iron in the diet can reduce blood’s ability to carry oxygen, resulting into reduced amount delivered to the brain. Lack of iron can also cause problems such as poor concentration, lack of energy and tiredness. Brain is one of the most important organs of the body, so it needs to be kept fuelled. In order to do that you should feed your children on a plenty of iron-rich foods. Drinking water: Human brain is nearly 75% water, thus its function depends on having a good amount of water as it provides the brain the electrical energy for all functions, including memory and thought processes. Lack of water can cause symptoms like problem in focusing, memory loss, brain fatigue as well as headaches, sleep issues, anger and depression. It can also affect the activities of the brain and nervous system. So, make your child drink a lot of water. It is also important to see that the lack of it does not have a severe effect on the brain’s function. Give the kids a diet low in saturated fats,...

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